Friday, March 1, 2013

1 + 1 = 2 X 14 + pure luck = us

It's not our wedding anniversary, but it is a special day for us. We don't really recognize Valentine's day, but every year when March 1st rolls around, we get all sappy.

This day, fourteen years ago, I asked Kimberly to be my girlfriend over the phone. It was a greenish blue cordless and the closest thing to a cell phone I had ever used.

Kimberly would have preferred being asked out in person, but being the practical girl she is, she decided that March 1st would be a more memorable date than March 2nd. Yes, 1999 was a big year for us. Our life together began, and of course we met that epic milestone of our 16th birthdays; both equally exciting. Not to mention the awkward splendor of my first real kiss...

We've almost reached the ripe old age of thirty (a post outlining my most current existential crisis to come). And at almost thirty, stress on almost, it is not uncommon for many of our peers to be divorced and even into their second marriages, so from time to time we're asked, "How are you guys still together when you got started so young?" God. Definitely God. He's the most important component in our marriage. We also have a lot of friendships with other Christian married couples. This kind of fellowship is important, but of course, that's probably an expected answer from a Christ-follower. So what else?

Well, I'm certainly no expert, but treating one another kindly is a given.

Value time with your spouse; make it count. Make your time away from one another count, too.  It takes two to make a pair. Enjoy the life and interests God gave you. She reads. I hike. We each get fulfillment from different things, and that's okay. As two individuals, we're able to come together satisfied in life. And that time we do have together? Movies. Meals. Walks on the beach. We're present, engaging in shared interests with one another.

And? I really don't have much else to say. I got lucky. Real lucky. No advice there.

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